Tips on Ang Pow Giving
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If you celebrating Chinese New Year, it is a huge family jamboree, replete with parents, grandparents, nephews, nieces, kids, and lots of foods. And of course, if you no more a “Koko” or “Cheh Cheh” but now being addressed as uncle and untie, prepared yourself – get the Ang Pow ready.
But with the raising cost of living, and the looming threats of recession in US & how it may affect our economic, how much should you give in an Ang Pow and not to burn a hole in your next month expenses?
Here, I have a suggestion or two, albeit conservative.
Generous to your parents. This is on top of the Astro bill that you have been paying every month. And if your parents have special needs such as accommodation, healthcare and that you have the ability, you have the moral obligation to give more. But sometime there is a souring part – that what you gave to your parents they give it to someone else or use it in areas that not in your liking. For example, your parents gave your money to your other siblings, or use your money to indulge on their grandsons, etc. While you may not necessarily agree with how the money is ultimately spent, the bottom line is, giving money doesn’t give you the right on how should it spent. Giving money to your parents is just simply an act out of love.
Modest on Children. Nowadays children are materially well taking care of and are sometimes barraged with bad personal finances influences. It is increasingly common now that children went all out to out do each others in the Ang Pow F1 race and to see their bank account number grows. But then there is a dilemma, while it is a good thing to see them start saving at the early age, but at one hand they seems to not having a good grasp on how the money is earned – they simply think they ‘deserved’ it. The bigger the Ang Pow it, the less likely they will come to appreciate the true value of the money. Therefore to teach kid a good money concept, shrink your Ang Pow.
Charitable to those needed. My wife always remember one particular uncle who has been very generous in given Ang Pow to her & her sister because he knew very well that they need the money. Indirectly, the uncle puts the Ang Pow tradition in a good charitable use. Look around, it you have the means, you may want to consider to emulate what the uncle has done. Trust me, you gesture be remembered for life.
Finally, you should only give out of love, not guilt or to buy affection.
Have a wonderful new year